The doctrine of the enslaved male

1. Most men as husbands become more interested in peace than they do in assuming the responsibility and the authority of the home — divine institution #2.

2. Peace at any price is the battle cry of the average husband who has made a mistake in marrying the wrong woman.

3. This attitude results in male enslavement, the reverse of what we have in this passage, just as it does in a national entity. No one wants to live in a country under tyranny and no one wants to live in a marriage under tyranny. Yet, in spite of what is said in this passage many are slaves to their wives. The price that a man pays for peace at any price is complete compliance with the policies, the wishes, the desires, the whims, the bad judgements, and the bad disposition of his wife.

4. Control of the enslaved male is maintained by the behaviour pattern of the woman — nagging, tantrums, sulking, pouting, spreading a pall of gloom over the household, etc. In other words, anything that destroys the peace and tranquillity of the home.

5. Most men by nature are much more complex than the woman. For example, the man is very, very sensitive to this type of behaviour in his wife. He finds it distressing, irritating, incompatible with tranquillity and peace in the household. The results for this man are his own destruction. When a woman enslaves a man she does more than enslave him, she destroys him. A man is much more sensitive than a woman. Authority increases the sensitivity of the soul.

6. Therefore the average male feels that his only defense against a nagging woman, a tantrum woman, a woman who makes life miserable for him, is capitulation. Marriage then becomes a series of manipulation with the strings being pulled by the woman.

7. The wife controls the husband by her behaviour pattern under these conditions. She enslaves him by nagging, by embarrassing him, by making his life miserable; and soon she sets up a policy which includes constant surveillance, curfews, interrogations by unexplained absences, examination of his cheque book, searching his drawers and anywhere else where he keeps anything to see if she can get any clues at to what he has done. In other words, a woman who starts running a man makes him a slave. And slaves have no privacy!

8. Another means of enslaving the male is to ration sex, or ration kindness, unless the male complies with whatever policy the woman has set up.

9. When the enslaving woman is backed into a corner and proved wrong then immediately she has a number of excuses by which she rationalises her dictatorship. For example, she is either pre, mid, or post-menstrual; she is either pre-menopausal, mid-menopausal, or suffering from some psychosis as a result of the menopause, namely involuntary melancholia. Or, pressure from the kids, or everything went wrong in the house today, as it somehow this was an excuse for becoming a monster and a dictator. Operation patsy leads to rationalising away this enslavement of the husband.

10. Most women have more endurance than men — soul endurance, life endurance. Statistically they live longer, they have unbelievable stamina for whatever their project is.

11. Because of the nature of the man as the divinely-appointed authority in marriage, and as the aggressor, his enslavement is far more tragic and, in our society, more frequent than the enslavement of the woman. In a matriarchal society people loves dogs rather than human beings!

12. No one bemoans the fate of a house cat, but how pathetic to see the king of the beasts, the lion, ensnared in a trap. That is the principle. A right woman can never enslave her right man, even in the most adverse conditions of reversionism. A right woman may start it but she will grow up and will so adjust as to put the man on the spot if he is in the wrong and leave the man in the hands of the Lord. But a right woman will never enslave her right man.

13. A right woman may test her right man’s authority by trying to pull a fast one from time to time, but the right man knows exactly what to do and exactly how to handle it.

14. The right man is never afraid of his right woman, but the bravest of brave are intimidated by the wrong woman. It is a compliment, ladies, if a man is not afraid of you.

15. Let’s face the facts. Women do enslave men in the framework of marriage. Such a woman is never happy and obviously her husband-slave is miserable.

That is why God ordained marriage to have authority vested in the man.

Summary

1. The authority of Christ over the Church is used to establish the authority of the husband over the wife in marriage.

2. This relationship, like all others, demands the existence of authority.

3. Therefore the woman in surrendering her volition to a man in marriage must be absolutely certain that she has her right man designed for her by God in eternity past. For if she doesn’t it is inevitable that either she will enslave him or he will enslave her, and that marriage is a slave factory — one of them is going to be a slave.

4. Otherwise a state of slavery will exist.

5. One wrong decision regarding marriage and the woman has a lifetime of misery either as a slave or as a master of slaves.

6. Therefore no one should ever enter into marriage lightly, erroneously, under the influence of alcohol, or anything else that takes away from the solemnity of the decision and the ceremony.