The loving husband

1. The loving husband must has a soul! A man is a man with what he has in his soul, not the male sex organ.

2. The chief characteristic in his mental attitude love toward his wife must be patience. Nobility is related to patience when it comes to the squad leader and his squad. In this case patience and the relaxed mental attitude are synonymous. There never was a woman who was truly ready for marriage and if a man has patience and nobility the transition will be easy. If he doesn’t have this there never will be a really wonderful marriage, one designed under the principles of the Word of God. In other words, no woman is ready for marriage, she must grow up in the relationship.

3. The loving husband must have freedom from mental attitude sins. In Colossians the husband is specifically commanded not to be bitter toward his wife, but that includes also jealousy, vindictiveness, implacability. Leaders cannot afford mental attitude sins and the husband is the leader.

4. There is a sense in which a leader is a protector. Then husband is the protector of the squad, he protects his wife — from gossip and maligning, from all the dangers of life, from the insecurities of life, from any physical harm of any kind. He never trots his wife’s failures out in front.

5. He also provides in the physical area for his wife — sex.

6. Leadership means sacrifice, and there is a sense in which the husband must sacrifice for the blessing and pleasure of the wife. That is a part of “love your wives.”

7. A husband must be a gentleman — the instincts of thinking about someone else. No man can be an husband and fulfill this principle if he is selfish. Therefore the principle of sacrifice — honour and integrity, instinctive thoughtfulness for his squad.

8. As a result of all of these things this kind of a husband is the source of respect and even awe, but he is never source of discomfort or belittling to his right woman.